A friend was sharing with me how her other friend was on holiday with her boyfriend and on an impulse they got married at a little inn in a quiet little valley place. Well, I wouldn't say it was an impulse, it wasn't planned, but they had been dating long enough to know that they wanted to spend the rest of their lives together, except that there were no wedding plans yet, they hadn't looked for a house and were just letting things go with the natural flow. And go with the natural flow they did. Well, they didn't want to rush into the wedding as they wanted to look for the perfect wedding location. So, when they found it in that quiet little valley, they got the innkeeper to get the solemnization documents and the innkeeper and his wife were the witnessess!!!
When I heard that, I was stunned for a while, because that would have been my perfect wedding! And I thought it only happened in my dreams. I had always dreamed that the perfect proposal will take place out of Singapore (eg. maybe in the Woods? At the top of a Mountain? By a quiet lake? in the night view of the Parisian/ New York lit skyline?) And my perfect wedding would be held in a quiet, serene place (meadows by the lakes... ahhh...) where the people are so friendly and warm, with no preparation, except spontaneity. Find the perfect place, head to the town to get a nice sundress, if there's a little chapel by the meadows, all the better. Get the local pastor or local solemnizer to solemnize the wedding and get the innkeeper and his wife to be the witnessess. The rings don't have to be anything expensive, even one weaved outta twigs also works. That evening's celebration will just be a nice, homely dinner celebration with whoever's at the inn. Or one at the local restaurant, proclaiming to all the patrons that "We're Married!". How COOL will that be? And, it will be a ONE OF A KIND wedding. Spontaneous? Impulsive? Whatever you may call it, I think it's absolutely romantic. Because, this kinda wedding, is one that focuses on the crux of the wedding - the joining of 2 as 1. No guest list, no dinner, no traditional ceremony to worry about - the only thing that matters would be the 2 of us. Imagine the thrill of coming back to Singapore and then proclaiming to everyone, "We're Married!".
Sure, I want everyone to celebrate in the joy, but many a times, many couples get too stressed up and caught up with the preparation, the most important thing is lost in the busyness. Not to say I won't have a "proper" wedding with the full works, but let's get to the crux of the matter first, the wedding is about the union of the man and woman in the eyes of God. Once that is celebrated between the 2 who really matter, then let's bring the joy to the rest. The excel sheets, house hunting, dinner venue etc. can all wait. :)
